I used to do this kind of thing a lot.
But let me explain why it’s a bad idea:
The medium has become the message: because you have a cellphone (don’t judge but– i have a Sidekick) it makes it seem like you need to make calls. And send texts. And use the mobile IM program. Because you have it, you should use it. Something like that.
I was a bit of a skirt-chaser for a time and had a lot to administer to, but that aside, I didn’t need to be as annoying as I was with it. After the whole medium is the message thing came just good old-fashioned compulsion– and fucking with your phone all the time is a compulsion.
A girl I knew before said that she texted/checked her messages when she was in stressful situations because if she was around new people it showed them, subconsciously, that she knew other people.
Meeting new people is hard, your cell phone and everyone that it’s connected to can be sort of like a blankey. Children use blankies. The other thing is that what you don’t realize when you’re constantly checking your phone, texting, etc is that you’re fragmenting every interaction and ruining any continuity.
Oh Sorry About That, Where Were We?
So if you go to your cell phone when you get anxious or nervous people will see this and either think that you’re a nervous wreck or that you have more important people to attend to. Whether you like it or not, this will offend people and it will rob you of any meaningful interactions.
If you have this problem, try only looking at your phone once per hour (unless it rings or something) and try to do it in private.
After that learn to turn your phone off while you’re asleep.
Then turn it off when you’re on vacation, or out with your group of friends and everyone is there.
The point is that leaving your phone on when you’re say, hiking, is stupid because if anyone calls–well, you’re hiking– and the conversation will go something like this:
Your Idiot Friend: What are you doing?
You: Hey Brian. I’m hiking
Brian: Oh, cool. Well i’ll let you get back to it.
Brian: Bye, I love you
You: What? I’m not gay, man.
Brian: well you know, you said you were hiking and I just thought…
You see how useless this conversation was. No necessary information was transferred, and you not only broke up the continuity of your hike, and you also ruined any chances of telling your friend later about the entire hiking trip you took because they caught you in the middle of it. Not only that, but you made your friend make a homosexual pass at you like some cell phone obsessed cocktease hiker.